It’s February which means it’s almost St. Valentine’s Day! For many, this is a terrific time of year – celebrating our special love! For others, it’s a reminder that we’ve been “unlucky in love.” Whether you fall into one of these two categories or somewhere in between, we all need to nurture at least one relationship in our lives first and foremost…the relationship we have with ourselves. The truth is that there is really only one person you spend every moment of every day with – YOU! So, the question becomes “How are you nurturing your relationship with yourself?”I’m fond of saying “you can’t give what you don’t have” which means that you have to make sure your love account is full before you start withdrawing from it to give to others. I know there are voices in your head saying things like: “Yeah, yeah, yeah…I’ll get on that after I do the 10 loads of laundry, drop the kids off at school, take grandma to the bank, complete that project… I don’t have time.” To many of us, the idea of self-care is foreign. But, it’s critically important and something we need to do as it truly does add to the quality of your life and, therefore, the quality of your relationships with others. What this means is not just taking care of yourself by getting rest when you are tired or going to the doctor/holistic practitioner when ill, but eating well, exercising regularly and scheduling time for whatever your version of “play” is. If you’re daunted by the prospect, here are some ideas for you:
- ·Color with your children or take an art class
- Take yourself (and your dog) for a walk
- Dance while vacuuming OR if you truly want to dance cha cha cha yourself over to this website www.naplesballroom.com. It has a lot of useful information on the places you can go to in Southwest FL to learn how to dance!
- Sing in the shower – everyone can be Pavarotti or Katy Perry in their own shower
- Use cookie cutters to give shape to your sandwiches
- Pamper yourself regularly – taking care of your body on the outside (i.e., spa treatments) helps heal your body on the inside
- Reserve some solo time to deal with emotions – lean into the good, bad and ugly and learn whatever lessons you can
- Watch movies in bed on a rainy/snowy afternoon
- Read a book or magazine for fun or to enrich your body/mind/spirit
- Meet with friends regularly to catch up, share and support each other
- Reserve 10 minutes every morning or night to give thanks for all your blessings – start with one and you’ll soon discover several more
- Take a long bubble bath
- Go cheer your favorite sports team (i.e., the USA at the Winter Olympics)
One of the best things you can learn to do is to be fully present in each moment. This means that when you’re at work, you dive in and get the job done. When you’re at the dinner table, you really listen to your family and enjoy their company while you nourish your body. If you’re out with friends, put down the phone (after taking pictures, of course) and relish the love, support and laughter you are sharing. In this way, your making deposit after deposit into your personal love account so that the next time you need to make a withdrawal, you have more than enough in reserves to keep things in balance, naturally! Happy Valentine’s Day!